Why didn't you Just accept hair loss?

[duchaine]

On 7/19/2024 at 9:10 AM, BaldReaper said:

Didnt like looking 45 when I was 25

I love to look like 38 when I am 45 😂😂😂

[davidn]

1 minute ago, Berba11 said:

Careful, or @Matthiaswill give you a thumbs down for pointing out that 2+2=4...

But you're right. His comment is mental. That said, I should probably tell my NW7 Dad - a father of four and grandfather of two - that actually he's "destined for a life of loneliness" despite his entire life's experience to the contrary. I guess I should also go and investigate whether my partner of 12 years is actually a figment of my imagination given I had significant hair loss when we [allegedly] first met.

Well, I have a mixed view on this subject. It is obviously not the romantic death sentence he made it out to be.

At the same time, I believe we should not ridicule the personal experiences people make when dealing with baldness.

I personally received some pretty harsh comments by random people or dates when balding significantly. I really tried to work on my attitude, own it, focus on character development, radically accept it, therapy, Meditation and I actually had fairly good success in many other areas and lived a really cool life, but the treatment of other people still hurt me, cause frankly I was just a young guy that didn't do anything wrong. Now, I laughed it off, but it still hurt me.

This radically changed after my transplant, even though I was the same person. Now, you could say that I could have laughed it off, these people are not worth worrying about, etc. But it was still really hurtful.

So what I am trying to say is we should not deny people their subjective experience too. Because I think that If we do, guys just stop talking about their feelings to play it tough. As we see in @SeekingStubblecomment. And I had plenty of guys that initially told me its Not a big deal, they Just shaved etc but later told me in private how hard the experience was for them. And I think if guys are not honest, this sort of puts pressure on other guys to "man up and shave it".

I hope I got through what I meant, English is not my first language.

 

[davidn]

3 minutes ago, davidn said:

Well, I have a mixed view on this subject. It is obviously not the romantic death sentence he made it out to be.

At the same time, I believe we should not ridicule the personal experiences people make when dealing with baldness.

I personally received some pretty harsh comments by random people or dates when balding significantly. I really tried to work on my attitude, own it, focus on character development, radically accept it, therapy, Meditation and I actually had fairly good success in many other areas and lived a really cool life, but the treatment of other people still hurt me, cause frankly I was just a young guy that didn't do anything wrong. Now, I laughed it off, but it still hurt me.

This radically changed after my transplant, even though I was the same person. Now, you could say that I could have laughed it off, these people are not worth worrying about, etc. But it was still really hurtful.

So what I am trying to say is we should not deny people their subjective experience too. Because I think that If we do, guys just stop talking about their feelings to play it tough. As we see in @SeekingStubblecomment. And I had plenty of guys that initially told me its Not a big deal, they Just shaved etc but later told me in private how hard the experience was for them. And I think if guys are not honest, this sort of puts pressure on other guys to "man up and shave it".

I hope I got through what I meant, English is not my first language.

 

That being said thanks for giving this forum sanity checks every once in a while @Berba11.

[Doron Harati]

Because I am a huge glam metal 80's fan!
I am myself a drummer musician so I always wanted to look like these bands with all the babes:

 

[anon493]

5 hours ago, davidn said:

Brother, go visit the city center. Look at the couples holding hands. You will notice there are plenty of bald guys with beautiful girlfriends.

Maybe if they are older men with older women you are right.

But if your in your 20s or 30s and balding its literally over. Young women 18-20 only go after good looking men and if you are bald you won't ever get a young girlfriend. 

[Berba11]

17 minutes ago, anon493 said:

Maybe if they are older men with older women you are right.

But if your in your 20s or 30s and balding its literally over. Young women 18-20 only go after good looking men and if you are bald you won't ever get a young girlfriend. 

None of this is true. If you're repelling women and giving them the ick it's because of your personality, not your hair. These views are archaic and bordering on anti-women sentiment, which maybe isn't the kind of thing you want to be hinting at in light of your claimed legal issue.

If you think there's no balding blokes in their 20's & 30's having success with the ladies then you've got a serious reality problem. I'm somewhat inclined to believe that your posts are intended to be some kind of satire on incel cultures.

Edited 1 hour ago by Berba11

[Matthias]

58 minutes ago, Berba11 said:

If you think there's no balding blokes in their 20's & 30's having success with the ladies then you've got a serious reality problem.

Very true, in fact young women love a guy with a neat hairpiece.

[Berba11]

4 minutes ago, Matthias said:

Very true, in fact young women love a guy with a neat hairpiece.

99.9% of balding men aren't rocking wigs, and for good reasons; buzzcuts, shorter styles or clean shaves look better and convey a self-confidence that a wig simply does not. Your sarcasm falls flat on its face given it's predicated on a straw man; I haven't argued anyone is particularly attracted to the idea of a wig or advocated for the use of them (I think they look naff personally and you need the personality to pull it off, but to each their own).

Last time I checked this forum wasn't an online gathering for incels and scarcely-veiled misogynists, but maybe I missed a memo somewhere...

And just to be clear here... You're falling on the side of the argument of the incel who claims to be facing charges for sex offences? That's some hill to die on.

 

[Matthias]

3 minutes ago, Berba11 said:

And just to be clear here... You're falling on the side of the argument of the incel who claims to be facing charges for sex offences? That's some hill to die on.

I think him and I are more in touch and capable of analysing the generation Z as we both are probably significantly younger than you are, and yes he's entirely correct with regards to this age group. You might somehow get along up to NW3 but it’s certainly an uphill battle.

[anon493]

1 hour ago, Berba11 said:

If you're repelling women and giving them the ick it's because of your personality, not your hair.

That's very bluepill 

The fact is women only go for the top 5% of men 

Here

if your bald in your 20s and 30s it's literally over for you unless you have a Chad jawline and a god like headshape. And that's ONLY if you are extremely muscular and tall. 

 

[Berba11]

9 minutes ago, Matthias said:

I think him and I are more in touch and capable of analysing the generation Z as we both are probably significantly younger than you are, and yes he's entirely correct with regards to this age group. You might somehow get along up to NW3 but it’s certainly an uphill battle.

I'm in my 30's, which is one half of the age group you both refer to, and my sibling are all in their 20's as are several friends. Don't mistake factually incorrect limiting beliefs that you hold for some kind of objective analysis.